We all clamor for respect. We all want to be confident. High level of confidence, that’s what most of us want. 

In fact, virtually every blog, book and seminars connected with the personal development niche constantly churn out topics on how to develop self-esteem.

HIGH SELF ESTEEM;
We all want it. But despite all the tips and advices on how to increase our self-esteem and confidence level, we all seem to be missing something. It seems like we are all missing a secret ingredient. Thus, often than never, our self-esteem and level of confidence doesn’t increase as we expected.
And I don’t blame our instinct to ignore this secret ingredient. Because our society is so focused on having a high self-esteem and that is a real problem.
But before we move on, what’s this secret ingredient I’m talking about? …
Yeah, you guessed it right. The answer is SELF WORTH.
According to the dictionary meaning; self-worth is the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person. And in today’s post, we are going to discuss the value of self-worth and how to build it. Yeah, so get your mind ready to assimilate every damn word here.
So, before I changed focus, we were discussing about the problems of the society focusing solely on self-esteem development, right? Yeah, I remember.
SO WHY IS THE SOCIETY FOCUSING SO MUCH ON SELF-ESTEEM AND NOT SELF-WORTH SUCH A BIG DEAL?
To start with, self-worth is less about measuring yourself based on external actions and more about valuing your inherent worth as a person. That is, self-worth is about who you are and not about what you do.
The problem of the focus on self-esteem is that it involves and encourages us to be measuring oneself against others rather than paying attention to one’s intrinsic value {which is our self-worth}. According to psychologist; Dr. Neff, “our competitive society culture tells us we need to be special and above average to feel good about ourselves, but we can’t all be above average at the same time.” And there’s much plausibility in what Dr. Neff said, because, no matter how good we are, there is always going to be someone more attractive than you. There’s always someone that is going to be more intelligent than you. There’s always someone that is going to be way richer than you. And the list can go on and on. But this is the simple truth. There’s always going to be that person who is better than you.
And yes, sometimes we may manage to feel self-esteem for one golden moment, but we can’t hold on for long. Our self-esteem crashes to the bottom again. And this problem is evident in most of our lives. We lose our confidence in the process.
Also, self-esteem is more immediate, situational and temperamental. It can be high this hour, and low the next. And it is based more on superficial things. It is more fickle in nature. So, it actually does more damage than good, if you focus solely on increasing your self-esteem and neglecting your self-worth development.
Although real accomplishments are good to acknowledge as you build your sense of self, your self-worth should take in to account the uniqueness that makes you you. In Dr. Firestone words, “we shouldn’t be rating ourselves, we should just be ourselves.”
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HAVE A HIGH LEVEL OF SELF-WORTH?
High self-worth sure has a lot of advantages. But what does it truly entail?
To have a high self-worth means accepting yourself wholeheartedly at all times despite your blemishes, flaws, weaknesses and limitations. It is about recognizing your intrinsic value.
To have a high self-worth means never allowing yourself to be defined or measured by external or outside forces such as people’s opinions. You have unshakable confidence in yourself.
To have a high self-worth means feeling worthy of good things as a human. This means feeling deserving of happiness, health, wealth, success and love.
Developing your self-worth is a vital tip most people have missed on their goal to develop confidence in themselves.

Now you know why you should develop your self-worth and what it entails, I guess the question now is:

WHAT ARE THE WAYS TO BUILD MY SELF-WORTH?

And you’ve come to the right place,  watch out for my next post on ways to build your self-worth.

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